Discussion with a friend about bicycles and cars
Context:
I was sitting with a friend at our table, having a discussion about riding bicycle in our city and how difficult it is to avoid dangerous situations with cars.Trigger:
He was starting to devalue people, and getting really arrogant and punitive with a lot of hate in his speech.How did I feel:
I was angry about his kind of speech and start rejecting his perspective.How did I behave:
I became louder and pointed out, that I don’t like his behaviour (at our table) and explained him, that he is contradicting my values and need for respect for other people.
What was the result:
He valued my position, we switched topic.
This emotional episode has room for improvement. I ‘overcome an obstacle’ with my anger, nevertheless I was in ‘full force’ and I demanded a behavior from him. Sadly, it was not an open request.
In retrospective, I would say I’ve chosen this strategy because (I think) I know him for a long time and how to “stop” his speech flow when he gets into something and he is showing his ‘dark side’. Next time I’ll try another strategy to stand for my values and request my needs more appreciatively
Even after such an episode, we are still friends 😀
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Heinz Brasch.
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This is a great analysis with important insight. Thanks for sharing and good job!
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